Survivors. Not Victims.

Fawkes is a phoenix, Harry. Phoenixes burst into flame when it is time for them to die and are reborn from the ashes.

What does it mean to be a survivor instead of a victim? I feel that I became a survivor the day I realized that I had continued to victimize myself for years after my first assault, and then found myself starting the same process over again when it happened again over a decade later.

I am by no means claiming that I am “healed” of my abuse. I know that it will affect me for the rest of my life. However, I feel that I have finally crawled out of my black hole of self-destruction into a place where I am trying to turn something horrible into something wonderful by doing what I can to inspire and help others.

Your anger is a gift.

your anger is a gift

I feel that the first step in taking the power back and becoming a survivor is caring enough about yourself again to get mad that someone has hurt you.

After a week of just laying in bed, my emotions drifting from utter numbness to terror, anxiety and crippling depression, and then back to numb again — I finally got mad. I finally reached a point of “righteous anger.” I jumped up out of bed and I got fucking mad and that anger is what sparked me into action, into doing something about it and demanding justice by reporting the crime before I let too much time slip by.

(click here to read “First, you’ve got to get mad.”).

Sharing your story and reading those of others can help you through the healing process, from filing the police report to eventually realizing that you have gotten through the worst of it.

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