I was assaulted for the second time in my life on Halloween 2014. I was date raped and it took me days to realize that I had indeed been violated. I was black out drunk before we left the party. I specifically remember telling him that I couldn’t wait to get home and go to bed. I couldn’t remember the car ride or what was said. I probably did agree to go to his apartment, like he later claimed. I was wasted.
I created this website because I feel that there is a need for more resources and communities for survivors that are not exclusively female-oriented. I feel that because most websites and resources seem to be focused on female survivors, there is a disregard and even a taboo around non-female survivors, especially with men and boys.
My goal in creating this project is to hopefully provide a valuable tool for those who have just realized they have been assaulted and for those struggling to find the support they need. I know how hard it was for me to find the help I needed, and it can be very frustrating constantly being referred from one place to another.
It is my hope that those who have just been assaulted will be able to find links to the local support it was so difficult for me to find, and also follow up with care and support in the long-term. I want this to become a collaborative project, a collective of survivors, advocates and activists who wish to help me in the fight against rape culture, sexual abuse and self-victimization.